You can spot the wild ones if you know what to look for. They’re the ones who laugh too loud and love too hard and swear too much and stay too long.
If she’s in her twenties she’s probably a bit angry at the world, because she can’t figure out how to round her sharp edges to fit in, and she drinks too much at parties because the non-wild women whisper about her. If she’s in her thirties she’s a bit more relaxed about life, she’s had her heart obliterated more than twice, and knows that no storm lasts forever, but she still drinks too much at parties.
She carries pieces of her past in her pocket. Some so she remembers who she is, some to remind her how far she’s come. She’s at peace with all the pieces, and if you can’t be – leave her wild.
Her friends are extended family. Gender, race, sexual orientation and age are irrelevant, because she sees souls instead of smiles. If it’s not OK that some of these souls are in male bodies – leave her wild.
She has a messy mind, a messy heart and a messy room. She is used to organised chaos, and she is happy there. If you’ll resent her for not being a neat freak – leave her wild.
She will walk into a room and feel the energy. She will know who hates her for no reason, and she will gravitate toward the open hearts. If you need to constantly question her intuition – leave her wild.
She will fight for what she feels is right, even if she is fighting alone. You don’t have to take up arms, but you should stand quietly in her corner to honour the times she’s fought for you. If her causes make you uncomfortable – leave her wild.
She doesn’t give up easy, but when she does, it’s because she’s losing too much of herself. In hindsight she will always wonder if she could have tried harder. If you can’t resist the urge to make her feel like she failed – leave her wild.
She will collect emotions from everyone, everywhere, and there will be times when the weight causes her to stop dead in her tracks. If you can’t summon the strength to help with her load – leave her wild.
She will never get excited about settling down and living a “normal” life. If her fanciful plans and dreams of far off lands frustrate you – leave her wild.
She will make mistakes – lots of mistakes, but she will say sorry, and she will mean it. If you’re unwilling to forgive – leave her wild.
She will speak up at times when you wish she would be quiet. If you don’t like that she’s honest and comfortable with having an unpopular opinion – leave her wild.
She is fiercely loyal, to people you might not like, for reasons you might not understand. If you need her to constantly justify her loyalty – leave her wild.
She is one of the strongest people you will ever meet, but with enough pressure applied to the right place, she will shatter into a thousand pieces. If you don’t have the patience and the compassion to at least sweep the pieces into a pile – leave her wild.
If you catch yourself a wild one, and you truly believe you have what it takes to love all of her, I wish you well. But if there comes a day when the very things that made you say “I’ve just never met anyone like you”, are now the parts of her personality that you no longer love – open the door and set her free. And as you pen your speech that starts with “you are too much”, try “I am not enough” instead, because the energy she saves when she stops loving you, she can use to love herself again.